Norfolk, Virginia Beach, Chesapeake, Portsmouth, Suffolk: Remembering my Dad. Recordando a mi Papi.

Remembering my Dad. Recordando a mi Papi.

One year ago today my father passed awayBoy in the 1930's

My Dad was born in San Gil, Colombia in the 1930's.  His parents parents were of Spanish and Italian decent.  They were very proud to be descendants of men who had helped start the revolution in Colombia to gain freedom from Spain.

I have so many memories of my Dad through out my childhood that it is hard to pin point who he was.  He was very smart, funny, athletic, and as a little girl I thought the world of him.

My DadOn Saturdays he would sit on his recliner and read on our 8th floor balcony.  My sister and I would put rollers on his head, and he would just let us play along. We curled it, fluffed it, and stuck it out.  If I ever wanted to know about any subject, all I had to do was ask and he would know something about it.  He received books by mail on different subjects every month.  He had encyclopedias of the earth, the body, the stars and so many others subjects.  The thing about him is that he actually read these books.

He went to night school while married with children and became an attorney.  He was very open minded on some things, but if he had an opinion on something he would defend it.  Every Sunday we would visit his mother along with all his brothers and sisters who lived in town .  Politics were a common subject, and he would get so exited and loud trying to get his point. 

He purchased some land 4 hours drive down the mountain on the outskirt's of a town called Honda (the H is silent.)  He started building as money was available, so he first cleared the land, then built 2 rooms with a bathrooms and a small kitchen.  There was no door on the bathroom for a couple of years.  He then had a hole dig up for the pool, and filled it with water for the week or so that we would be there.  Our whole family would come down, and My Dadbrothers, sisters with their spouses would share the rooms with mattresses on the floors.  The children would sleep in tents.  Girls in one and boys in the other.  The adults would stay up and play poker until 2 or 3 in the morning.  The next day the talk would be over who won whose money.   Eventually, for different reasons he sold the farm as we called it. 

He loved to travel, and when I graduated from High School, he my mother and I went on a tour of Europe with a cruise to the Greek islands and all.  That was the last attempt my parents made of saving their marriage.   A year or two later, he took my sister and aunt on another tour trough Europe, and this time he visited what was then the Soviet Union.

While I went to Law school close to where his office was, he would take me to lunch a couple of times a week.  I would grab his arm and walk close to him.  I always felt protected.  For four years I got to know him as an adult.  Some times while I waited for him to finish his consultations with his clients, I couldn't help but hear him give council to people.  He practiced civil Law. Mainly divorces and real estate matters.  I could hear him act as a marriage counselor, and ask his clients if there was no way they could reconcile and give them suggestions looking to save their marriage.  Usually, I would hear the cries of the wife.

My Dad was not a perfect man.  I could go on and on with his faults, but I was very lucky to get the best he had to give.

I miss you Papi.My Dad and I





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Comment balloon 6 commentsTere Rottink • June 20 2009 01:02AM


Oh, Tere:

This is incredibly sweet and very moving.  I'm sure that your dad would be incredibly proud of you and feel the love in your blog posting.  I very happy for you that you had such a close-knit relationship with him.  On Father's Day, may all of those beautiful and fond memories that you have of him help you to celebrate him and fill the space that he left behind.


¡Un abrazote!

Posted by Diana Lesmez over 11 years ago


I could not finish reading what you wrote without tearing up....It is so easy to forget the good things that made that special connection with dad. You were allways daddy's little girl. He was a very smart, active and vivicious man. Although his marriage to mom ended he loved her very much, and I do not think he was able to get over it ending... completly.

I too remember when he let us play with whatever hair he had left...We would put it up and called him Einstein remember???

Honda was such a fun place, for all of us and the family...we would spend some of our best vacations there, and some scary times too. Remember when he had the accident going over to check on the farm and hit a buseta head on trying to pass on a curve???It was not his day and he came out with only a scar on his lip.

I think Camilo, Dora Sofia and I inherited some of that crazy driving, although I really have mellow out.

Anyway, lived your life to the fullest the way you wanted even to the day you died a year ago!!!

Love you and miss those memories,


Posted by Lucha over 11 years ago

Hi Tere: You write the best tributes I have ever read!


Posted by Matt Listro, Your Credit Repair Expert (National Credit Fixers - Matt Listro) over 11 years ago

Hi Tere, It sounds like your Dad was a wonderful person.  It sounds like you loved him dearly.  You will never get over his passing - there will always be a special place in your heart for him.  Take care of yourself and hang in there.  It must be terribly difficult for you.

Posted by Sandy Shores FL Realtor®, Melbourne Real Estate, Brevard County Real Estate, Florida's Space Coast (M & M Realty of Brevard Inc.) over 11 years ago

Tere--this was very touching.  Thanks for sharing your father.  I feel like he was sitting here next to me.

Posted by Mary Yonkers, Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor (Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate) over 11 years ago

Diana:  Thanks for taking the time for coming from FB to read this.  As you see, I posted it directly there.

Lucha:  We already talked about this.  I couldn't be luckier to have you as my sister.

Matt:  You are always so kind.

Sandy: Thanks for your support.

Mary:  I am glad you felt him there. My Dad had a stroke during his 50's, so the last 14 years there was very little comunication, as he lost  his ability to hold conversations.


Posted by Tere Rottink (CoastalVa Realty Inc) over 11 years ago

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